ENVY– “A feeling of discontented or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck.”
I’m assuming that you know this blog is going to be something about the word “Envy” since I started with the definition. Well you are correct. Envy is a feeling we’ve all had at one point or another. If you’re currently experiencing envy, PAY ATTENTION. I’ll start by saying, I’m no different from anyone out there. Envy is something I know all too well. Let’s be honest for a second, looking at someone succeed while you struggle is not the best feeling. I’ll take it a step further with you, it SUCKS. Especially when you know you can be at the same level of success if a few things would just go your way. I think it’s worse when it is someone succeeding that you actually know, love and genuinely want the best for.
While it’s hard to admit this, as a kid I found myself envying my very own brother because of how easy everything seemed to come to him with minimal effort. As a college student at a private university, I found myself envious of most of the students there because they came from wealthy families where money was not an issue. After college I found myself experiencing envy with those same people from college, watching them live life, travel the world with big paying jobs or some that I know are not working and just have money given to them. Meanwhile I was working 2-3 jobs at a time just to get by. Nope, I’m not finished either, even with the success I was seeing from Way of Life Fitness, LLC I was still looking at other gyms doing better than me. I can go on and on to show you that I’m no different from you but I will tell you this- those thoughts weren’t me. I was letting the devil get into my head and create chaos. Researchers say that the average person thinks about 70,000 thoughts a day. Almost 85% are negative, and yes, even envious. However, just because these thoughts (often times subconscious thoughts) may pass through, doesn’t mean that we have to give them the power to direct our path. Altering your perspective through intentional positive thinking is absolutely critical for moving forward in moments of doubt and envy. Instead of being envious of that person, be happy for them. Instead of beating yourself up for not being at their level, look at everything you’re doing to see if there is any room for you to tighten things up and sometimes there may not be at the moment, which is ok. Once I started learning to control these thoughts I started realizing how blessed I am. On top of everything that I’ve accomplished, I’m blessed with a work ethic and I’m blessed with a vision those are two things money can’t buy.
Life is how we choose to see it- perspective is everything. Too many times we’re comparing what we have to what others have, which creates many emotions, eventually leading us to seem very ungrateful for our blessings. Sometimes we compare our chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 52. Thinking that they didn’t go through what we’re currently going through because we’re looking at their finished product. Envy can quickly lead you to hateful thoughts, gossip, and overall negativity if you don’t correct your thoughts right away. Envy can also lead you to feel that person is now your competition or even worse…your enemy. When these thoughts are coming through your mind, do what I do.
Take a deep breathe
Say a Prayer
Think about what you’re blessed with
Keep Pushing Forward
We all have different journeys and will go at different paces!